What Is (And Isn’t) Parental Alienation Syndrome?
It’s important to realise that a single moment of expressing exasperation about the other house, or your ex, is not going to cause PAS. PAS is cause…
Category: Divorced Parenting
Kids’ Rooms in the Step-Dynamic
One thing I have learned in 20 odd years of parenting is that telling kids to clean their room is rarely effective. If we get overwhelmed looking at a…
Stepparents & Chores
...Some people advise stepparents stay completely clear of any chore assigning and enforcement. While on the surface this seems like good advice, it 
All is not Fair in Step-Family Chores
Expecting kids to land in your home and jump straight into chores can be setting our family up for conflict and failure. Take a moment to think how yo…
Just Do One Thing…
For much of my life, the biggest obstacle in front of the life I wanted was myself. For many years I battled my inner saboteur,…
4 Simple Questions To Help Kids Change Their Behaviour
...If we notice positive behaviour and comment on it, the positive behaviour will be repeated as long as we keep commenting on it and rewarding the ch…
Why Kids Should Not Be in Charge of the Visitation Schedule
Children who are subjected to pathogenic parenting are also often subjected to permissive parenting. The children are told their feelings, wants, and …
Step-Families in a Pandemic – Coping with Covid-19
Covid-19, or the Corona virus, is big news around the world. Schools are closing, borders are closing, toilet paper stocks are at all time lows. This …
What About Me? Step/mums and Family Holiday Traditions
It’s amping up to ‘that’ time of year. Holiday stress is a thing. It’s more often a thing for women. It’s often a very different…
The Ghosts of Christmases Past
We laid a few ghosts from Christmases past to rest this year. Christmas #9 for our blended family was a resounding success. It was not…