How to deal with an overstepping ex or stepparent
...In a healthy dynamic, where step/parents are solid and secure in their roles, they can have conversations about co-parenting and make joint decisio…
Category: Recoupled Parenting
A Guide to Parallel Parenting with a High Conflict Ex
...Narcissistic or not, parents can get very territorial. They can become self-righteous and feel entitled to tell us how we should or shouldn’t be…
3 Simple Steps To Avoid Mother’s Day Misery
... there are very few days in the year that can bring as much misery, resentment, and pain to women as Mother’s Day. It’s such a hyped up occasio…
What Is (And Isn’t) Parental Alienation Syndrome?
It’s important to realise that a single moment of expressing exasperation about the other house, or your ex, is not going to cause PAS. PAS is cause…
Kids’ Rooms in the Step-Dynamic
One thing I have learned in 20 odd years of parenting is that telling kids to clean their room is rarely effective. If we get overwhelmed looking at a…
Stepparents & Chores
...Some people advise stepparents stay completely clear of any chore assigning and enforcement. While on the surface this seems like good advice, it 
All is not Fair in Step-Family Chores
Expecting kids to land in your home and jump straight into chores can be setting our family up for conflict and failure. Take a moment to think how yo…
4 Simple Questions To Help Kids Change Their Behaviour
...If we notice positive behaviour and comment on it, the positive behaviour will be repeated as long as we keep commenting on it and rewarding the ch…
Why Kids Should Not Be in Charge of the Visitation Schedule
Children who are subjected to pathogenic parenting are also often subjected to permissive parenting. The children are told their feelings, wants, and …
The Ghosts of Christmases Past
We laid a few ghosts from Christmases past to rest this year. Christmas #9 for our blended family was a resounding success. It was not…